Snoring man and young woman. Couple sleeping in bed.

Sharing a bedroom with a person that is able to wake you up several times a night with their snoring  is a real challenge. You become irritable, cranky, tired and you might not even know the reason why. You dream it’s the sound of an alarm clock waking you up, instead it’s the noises coming from your partner that wake you up in the middle of the night.

“You might not know it, but there are ways to treat snoring. One of them is SleepTight laser treatment that is performed at our clinic,” says Dr Garry Cussell from Specialist Clinics of Australia in Sydney.

However, before you decide to undergo the treatment, it will be beneficial for you to brush up on your “living with a snorer skills” as soon as possible.

It’s all in the attitude

Your partner does not snore to spite you. Snoring is involuntary and it might also be a sign of a sleep apnoea, heart or blood pressure disease and other conditions, so it’s vital to book an appointment with a doctor and together search for the cause of your snoring. It might be a real life-saviour!

Realising that snoring might be a symptom of a disease is not going to lessen the way you react to it. It’s difficult to think of these nightly noises as simple “sounds of someone breathing”, which is often advised. However, embracing your partner’s snoring might not be such an abstract notion. It has been suggested that hypnosis can influence the way you perceive snoring, changing your attitude from frustration to calmness.

This is based on the idea that the sound of sea waves is often used by people who search relaxation. Since snoring also comes in waves, it is possible to suggest through hypnosis that your partner’s snoring pulls you even deeper into sleep (Sleep Your Fat Away, Joy Martina, Ph.D.).

Losing “the few extra pounds”

It is established that snoring is closely associated with a person’s weight. Overweight people struggle with snoring much more often than those whose weight is kept within the Body Mass Index (BMI) limits.

The fat surrounding the snorer’s abdomen and neck directly contributes to the person’s snoring as it influences the airflow. The fat in the abdomen reduces the volume of your lungs, while the fat in the neck increases the circumference of the neck, decreasing the upper respiratory tracts radius.

Encouraging your partner to lose weight may be a way to solve the snoring problem. Additionally, it will benefit your partner’s overall health condition.

Change their sleeping position

The supine position during sleep (when your partner is lying on his or her back) affects the person’s snoring. It’s because the back of the throat and tongue relax, collapsing further into the airway, blocking it. The snorer has to overcome the resistance that the lax tissue creates.

This rarely takes place when the snorer sleeps in the lateral position (on the side) as the airway does not become obstructed.

Keeping your partner in the lateral position throughout the night might be a challenge for you as it often takes a shove to get them to roll off their back. However, another good idea that will not require your alertness during the night is sewing a tennis ball into the back of their t-shirt to discourage them from sleeping on their back.

The easiest is sometimes the best

A very simple gadget that may help reduce the problem are simple earplugs. Putting them into your ears for the night will muffle the snoring sounds enough for you to have a decent sleep.

As helpful as earplugs might be, they are not a long-term solution. The problems with them are:

  • They are uncomfortable for the person who wears them
  • They don’t solve the problem as your partner still snores

There are much better methods available that can help you solve the snoring problems once and for all. SleepTight administered at the Specialist Clinics of Australia is one of such solution.

Considering separate beds

Arranging a new sleeping space for yourself or your partner is often a good solution to improving your nightly rest. However, it interferes with the intimacy in your relationship. Not only that, but it doesn’t solve the problem either, adding another layer of tension.

Considering that there are effective medical treatments that have the potential of solving the snoring problem, having separate beds is the idea of the past. If you’re in a committed relationship, you should think of this as the last resort when everything else has failed.

Get help

Sleeping with a snorer is not only a nuisance but your snorer must be evaluated for sleep apnoea – a condition that can lead to heart disease, stroke or other health problems. Snoring also takes its toll on both of you and you might witness increased irritability, drowsiness during the day or problems with keeping your focus in place.

The sooner you medically evaluate the cause of your partner’s snoring, the sooner you’ll be able to say goodbye to the problem.


Now back to you!

  • In your experience, what is the most challenging part of living with a snorer?
  • How did you solve the snoring problem in your bedroom?
  • How did snoring influence your relationship?

2 thoughts on “Living with a snorer”

  1. CM says:

    My husband has been diagnosed with sleep apnea ( 3 years ago) but refuses to do anything about it. I have finally moved to another bedroom as a last resort to saving my sanity!! ??

    1. Sandra says:

      Hi CM, your husband is welcome to contact us, phone 1300889935 to book a consultation and assessment about our Sleeptight laser treatment for snoring and sleep apnoea or book Thank you.

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